There is a concept in separation and divorce in which there is often a disparity between where each party are emotionally in relation to the separation. While some couples come to the decision together, in many cases one party has already made the decision to leave long before they’ve told the other. They are referred […]
Christmas and birthdays are the most important days in a child’s calendar. When you are little, a rotation around the sun takes ‘like’ FOREVER! Just ask any 5-year-old. You’re a parent. I’m sure this isn’t news to you. Many families have an agreement for alternating years with each parent for Christmas Day. For those who […]
Often the non-resident parent (be that for a week, or extended period) will report having difficulty in engaging children online. Phone calls, Skype and Facetime are all wonderful ways to interact. But how do you keep them interested? Firstly, I think it’s important to acknowledge that online engagement can be both necessary and sometimes the […]
Post-separation friendships are becoming more common. All too frequently though, they are met with disbelief or a level of scepticism – ‘this would never work for me’. Maybe it wouldn’t but it likely could have. Perhaps the most dominant myth is that if you could be friends after separation, you could have stayed together. The […]
The struggle of parallel parenting is real! Parallel parenting is the term given to a style of parenting that is adopted by some parents, most frequently when there is a high level of conflict and a low level of communication. What it means in practical terms is that each of you will parent differently.
Critics of the inquiry are questioning if false allegations are a genuine problem. There seems to be a fear that if we discuss the issue that somehow parents in family court will not feel confident to speak up about their experiences. I don’t foresee that there will be any consequences on the individuals, rather what will come from this inquiry is an awareness, data and hopefully an improved system. These are uncomfortable conversations, but they are vital if we are to have a fair and just process.
Much of what I write about relates to helping people co-parent in the best possible way. When both parties are willing, the transition to successful co-parenting can eventually be smooth even when some conflict is present. Usually we find that when the parents can remain child focused there is a rationale applied and a common […]
With the arrests of Dr. Russell Pridgeon and Patrick O’Dea relating to their alleged connection to a ‘child stealing ring’, Australia should be waking up to the reality that our adversarial family law system is not only broken, but those embroiled in it are either damaged at the outset, or damaged by it. These latest […]
Have we reached a tipping point in the child custody debate? Despite strong public support and mounting empirical evidence in its favor as an ideal living arrangement for the majority of children of divorce, shared parenting as presumption in family law has historically been met with skepticism among some legal and mental health professionals. In a recent article in the Journal […]
Being quiet in conflict is a challenge but if you master this art in communication you may learn a very valuable tool Getting involved in an argument is rarely beneficial. However, sometimes there are matters which need to be discussed in which emotions become elevated. The natural position for most people is to push back […]